July 12, 2009
Watch For Signs Of A Bad Relationship
You have a lot of time invested in your love interest. A lot of us crave the attention and the company that our partner can give to us and, let’s face it, nobody wants to be alone. However sometimes things just don’t work out and you need to be on the lookout for signs of a bad relationship before things get out of hand.
They say that it takes as many as five positive experiences to overcome the effect of one negative. Try and remember this when you are thinking about snapping at your partner and shelve those negative comments. One of the early signs of a bad relationship can be this constant two-way bickering, so make sure that you try and exchange loving and generous gestures and words as often as you can.
Quality time together is very important and should be exclusive. Allocate time just for him and try to make sure that he takes the same view. The company of mutual friends is all very well, but exclusive time together can help your relationship become well nourished.
If you don’t give and take this is one of the primary signs of a bad relationship in development. Both parties need to understand that there must be balance between individual needs and negotiation is key to solving this problem.
Whenever you sense a problem, try to resolve it as quickly and calmly as possible. Don’t let situations smolder and make it a point to never sleep on it. Buried resentments are very bad and if you are looking for signs of a bad relationship then you can be sure to find them here. Work together with your guy to find a consensus to the solution. If you find that your differences are creating friction you must turn that around and celebrate each other’s foibles. If you can find a way to appreciate his idiosyncrasies, this will be a great boost to your potential future together.
Be prepared to own up if you have made a mistake or done something that you shouldn’t have. If you break a promise, fess up to it and never be defensive. Whilst on the subject of being defensive make sure that you exhibit flexibility when it comes to your point of view. Never cling to your own beliefs at any expense and be prepared to shift to a stance of neutrality so that you can learn and develop. Intransigence on either part is one of the primary signs of a bad relationship.
Be prepared to overlook mistakes or bad behavior. Don’t be tempted to punish, as this is not an effective tool to use in repairing the situation. Whilst you should always be flexible, do make sure that he is inclined to act the same way as well. In short, try and maintain the relationship as an adult to adult affair and not as a parent to child situation.
If you sense signs of a bad relationship between you, take time to analyze the good versus the bad. Be honest and see if the good column out weighs the bad column. In some cases you must move on to pastures new for the good of both of you, but often the situation is very fixable.
Filed under Dating by Nigel Evans
July 11, 2009
Reading A Guy Can Be Fun
Sometimes a guy can be so frustrating. He will say one thing and mean another, or you expect him to act one way and he does the complete opposite. How do you know if you are reading a guy correctly? You may not be ready for a trip to the bookstore to pick up some volumes about body language, but there are nevertheless some easy to comprehend signs that you need to look for when you are with your love interest.
When a man flexes his muscles in your presence, it is a sign that he is exhibiting something that you might have expected to see in the wild animal kingdom, a sort of primeval move. A move like this is a sign that he is trying to impress you.
You can tell if a guy is really interested in you by watching him when you talk to him. Experts say that if he holds his head to one side, this is a sign that he is very interested in you and not just what is coming from your mouth.
You can really become good at reading a guy if you look at how he holds himself in your presence. Standing with legs apart and facing you, his body language exhibits that he is being territorial. Don’t worry though, he won’t act like a lion and attack any other member of the male sex — but he is being very serious about you!
Making eye contact is a good way to behave, as we are taught from an early age. In terms of reading a guy’s behavior, this can be a clear sign. If he does not look at you either when you are talking or when he is talking to you, or he avoids your stare, then you know this is a bad omen. Behavior like this on a regular basis means that you should try and get to the bottom of the problem and see if you can find out what is amiss.
A man can show how serious he is about your relationship by the way he holds your hand. His true feelings will be on display if he holds your hand firmly and intertwines his fingers with yours when you are together.
Touching, as in finding every opportunity to brush against you, is another sign of affection and can be a good clue when you are reading a guy’s motives. We only have to look at our house pet see a display of affection in this way, as your cat will want to rub his or her face against you as often as possible, especially at meal time!
The body language of your partner will teach you a lot about reading a guy in a short amount of time. He will not be able to fake most of the signs involved and this will tell you a lot about his actions.
Filed under Dating by Alan Bentley
The first step in internet dating is creating a profile; you post some photos of yourself, and you list your personal characteristics. You include some interesting facts about yourself and perhaps a funny anecdote or two to show off your sense of humor. And if you’re at all blessed with the gift of the gab, you can probably write a novella about your life while you’re at it.
Now the fun begins; it’s time to start searching for the man or woman of your dreams. Using the site’s built in search, you select your dream date’s criteria, hit the search button and wait for the results. Seconds later, your matches are displayed.
Now before you get too comfortable reading them, here are some things you should watch out for when looking for your Prince or Princess Charming. Qualities that speak volumes about a person, in a less than flattering way!
Badmouthing. Sarcasm is amusing, for a while and even more so when it’s disguised as humor in the form of a joke about the waitress or a friend. But if all your date’s comments about people are sarcastic and unflattering, it says more about your date than the people he or she is commenting on. Think this through. If your date has nothing positive to say about others what makes you think he or she will talk any differently about you?
Prior relationships. Most of us have a serious relationship (or two or three) in our past. If they ended badly, we likely learned something about ourselves in the process. But people who have only horror stories to share about their previous relationships may not have learned a thing about themselves or their past mistakes. Beware of perennial victims before you become one of the “bad guys”.
Anger that’s out of place. Sure, we all become incredibly angry at times. And if we handle it appropriately it’s usually not a big deal. But be careful of someone who appears to be angry at the world. They likely blame everyone but themselves for their problems and sooner rather than later, you are going to get blamed for something.
Too different. Even though opposites attract, the truth is that there are differences that may be too big to overcome. Things like religion, drugs and whether or not to have kids can all make or break a relationship. Go ahead and have some fun, but it will likely be for the short term rather than a lifetime.
Getting to know someone is one the reasons you date someone. It helps you figure out whether or not that person would make a good lifetime mate or not. If you run across someone with one or more of these red flags, take care in making a decision about dating this person in the future.
Filed under sex by Astrid Engels
July 10, 2009
Niche Internet Dating
If you’re serious about finding love online, a mainstream internet dating site gives you the biggest pool of potential daters. But if for whatever reason you’re a picky dater, then a niche dating site might offer you a better opportunity to meet the man or woman of your dreams.
Not sure what a niche site is when it comes to internet dating? It’s really quite simple; mainstream sites are for everyone, niche sites cater to a more specific group of people. In the same way that grocery stores cater to the masses, the deli caters to fewer people with specific tastes.
When the first internet dating services opened for business, there were just a handful of sites that catered to everyone. As online dating gained acceptance, dating sites offering their services to a particular segment of the population started attracting more and more likeminded members.
The appeal of a niche internet dating site lies in the fact that most of its members share a common interest; usually something that is important to them. As religion is an important element in the lives of a lot of people, it’s not surprising that one of the first niche dating sites was JDate, catering to Jewish singles. They’re still a major player in the niche dating world.
JDate is by no means the only religious based dating service. Since religion plays a central role in the lives of millions of people. For people such as this, a site that caters only to people of that religion will save the dater quite a bit of time by eliminating the need to screen profiles for religious views. Whether you’re Christian, Jewish, Muslim or follow another faith, a dating site geared to your religion ensures that those who’ve joined share your faith.
Vegetarians, vegans and environmentalists are usually quite passionate about their lifestyle. Vegetarians might be uncomfortable sharing their lives with someone who is strictly meat and potatoes. In the case of an environmentalist, it’s fair to say they probably wouldn’t consider dating someone who works in the oil fields! Hence, a niche site geared to their lifestyle would be a good option.
Sexual orientation is another niche that the internet dating world has filled. Though gays and lesbians are usually welcome at mainstream dating sites, many in the community feel their time is better spent browsing profiles of those who share their orientation.
If you’re into Star Trek, dogs, cats, skiing, if you suffer from a life threatening illness like AIDS, if you’re a rich guy looking to hook up with a beautiful woman or vice versa, chances are that niche dating is for you. Keep this thought in the back of your mind though; variety is the spice of life. Sometimes it’s the differences that draw two people together, not the things they have in common.
Filed under sex by Astrid Engels


